Proverbs 21.11
“When a scoffer is punished, the simple becomes wise; when a wise man is instructed, he gains knowledge.”
A scoffer is someone who resists correction. The scoffer refuses to admit wrongdoing and cannot tolerate a rebuke that points out mistakes. As a result, the scoffer cannot and will not improve behavior. “A wise son hears his father’s instruction, but a scoffer does not listen to rebuke.” (Proverbs 13.1)
At Focus 3, we teach a simple and powerful discipline: No BCD. Don’t blame, complain, or defend your ego. In other words, no scoffing. We have been teaching no BCD for many years now, and it has gained a large following. People and organizations have rallied to the call. It is has become an anthem for teams and a daily motto for thousands of people around the world. It gains traction and momentum every day. People intuitively know that BCD is counterproductive.
The bottom line is that BCD doesn’t work. It is lazy, and it takes virtually no effort or skill. Worse, it is cowardly. BCD does not achieve goals, it doesn’t solve problems, and it doesn’t improve relationships.
- Blaming indicates you are irresponsible and untrustworthy.
- Complaining makes you inefficient and unenjoyable.
- Defensiveness reveals your ego and your weakness.
The “no BCD” rule does not mean ignoring problems; it means solving them. Wise people understand there will always be problems in a fallen world, and they invest their time and energy in finding solutions.
As we saw yesterday, Proverbs 17.10 tells us that the fool is stubborn, and doesn’t listen to feedback, even after receiving a hundred blows. “A rebuke goes deeper into a man of understanding than a hundred blows into a fool.”
The wise person, on the other hand, takes feedback to heart. They don’t engage in BCD. Instead, they seek to solve problems. They listen to feedback and instruction. They want constructive criticism. They want to be coached. They want to get better.
Trust God, listen to feedback, and do the work. No BCD.
